San Antonio Birth Photographer | Guest Blog: An open letter to my friends who don't yet have kids | Mamarazzi Photography
Take it from me and the other moms who learned the hard way, you want to think about pregnancy and babies before you even start trying. If you are planning on starting a family soon, consider everything you haven't considered yet. You don't want to decide at 34 weeks into your pregnancy, that you think a homebirth midwife is a better option than an OB (which comes with a hefty price tag without the right insurance!). Or that you want to hire the best birth photographer in town to come take pictures of you while you welcome your baby into this world. Birth and baby related expenses can add up fast, and before you know it, you might find yourself choosing which items matter most to you because you waited until last minute to plan. Making big decisions late in your pregnancy can be stressful, financially impossible, or even heartbreaking if you fall in love with something you can't have.
Birth workers tend to get booked up. Photographers, doulas, midwives - all are limited on availability because of the amount of time they commit to their clients.
If you have the luxury of planning before trying to become pregnant, you can start looking at the different options and price tags. You can begin saving in advance, you can book as soon as you are expecting, and you can have a stress free pregnancy knowing things are being taken care of and you are getting everything you want! That amazing birth photographer that you MUST have? That fee for the doula you adore? The $450 you want to spend on a cloth diaper collection? Your $800 hospital bill? Maternity pictures? Newborn pictures? The baby carrier nobody got you because it wasn't on your registry? None of these items are major stressors to you, because you have planned ahead and gotten everything under control!
Even if you didn't have the luxury of planning before pregnancy, starting early in the beginning of your pregnancy is still an advantage over wasting time procrastinating. Pregnancies are long, but the time goes deceptively fast! Don't delay thinking about or planning your pregnancy, birth, and postpartum period.
And if you change your mind or things don’t go as planned, that’s okay too. You’re growing in more ways than one.
So take your friends' advice! Listen to them go "blah blah" about their amazing photographer, placenta, belly cast, doula, midwife... Listen to their recommendations and their "oh I wish I had xyz or knew about abc earlier." They might be saving you from the same annoyance or inconvenience they had. And when we heckle about car seat safety, know it’s out of love!
8/19/2018 11:36:35 pm
You and me both!
8/19/2018 11:37:11 pm
Thank you so much, that's so sweet! :)
8/18/2018 07:30:13 am
YESSSSS! I wish I could tell this to my younger self and to all my mom friends. Start saving now! Just like a wedding. We are already saving for baby #3
8/19/2018 11:48:46 pm
It really is! There are definitely things I would have done differently with my 4!
i love all the encouragement to get things prepped and ready before the baby comes. to make all those big decisions about car seats and strollers, birth photographers and doulas,will bring such peace and happiness. great advice to pregnant mamas and all women wanting to have kids.
8/19/2018 11:50:35 pm
I don't know what I would have done if I hadn't had a friend that had a baby just 3 months before I gave birth. They were great about letting us know what we'd really need and what seemed like a great idea but never got used enough to be worth having.
This is so true! Birth photography can especially be something you find out you really want to have but it can feel like a burden if you haven’t planned in advance for it. Seasoned moms and dads are perfect for providing insight regarding awesome baby related items and services to book. What a great recommendation and blog post!
8/19/2018 11:55:12 pm
There are so many options that weren't available (or maybe I just didn't know about?) when I had my kids! I love gathering resources that my potential clients might benefit from for that very reason. Had I known home birth was an option before I had my first I would have had her at home. I'm so glad another seasoned mom told me about her home births after I returned from maternity leave!
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I am an artist at heart and have been ever since I can remember. I have been blessed with four beautiful children and an amazing husband. One of my favorite things to do is help others capture beautiful memories that will last a lifetime.